The idea of “dual relationships” in clinical settings exists as an ethical standard to keep clients safe and boundaries clear within those settings. Adherence to this as a rule, without addressing the potential for harm and power dynamics present in these relationships does little to address actual safety. When we act from the acknowledgement of power dynamics, biases and social systems we can build bridges to safer connection without perpetuating the colonial belief of separation.

When working with people I know I deliberately name any of these ties and potentials so we can address them together. I may also recommend additional helpers where appropriate. With that in mind, I have found more often than not that knowing each other can lead to more in depth insight, accountability and safety. If you are considering working with me but aren’t sure if it’s right for our relationship or it concerns someone I have a pre-existing relationship with, I urge you to bring these questions to me in a free consultation.

My personal boundary is that I will not begin a romantic, sexual, play partner or friend relationship with new clients while we are working together.